Self-discovery: with 10 tips and 5 exercises to your true self

There are existential questions behind the term self-discovery that most people will eventually face: what do I really want? Who am I? What are my goals? How do I want to be? To deal with such questions is not easy. We give you tips and exercises that you can use to answer them anyway.

Self-discovery is not just about yourself, but about your environment as well. It’s about a tightrope walk: How much can I develop individually without being excluded from society? How can I find myself if at the same time I want to meet the requirements from the outside? Self-discovery is a demanding and ongoing process, but brings a lot of satisfaction , happiness and self-confidence .Tip: more joie de vivre and self-realization with * free * guide

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Why self-discovery is important

Knowing yourself is important for the happiness of life, but also for success and relationships.

  • You know your own strengths and can introduce and promote them specifically.
  • You are aware of your special talents and possibilities and thus appear more self-confident.
  • You know your own limits and needs and can protect yourself better.
  • You can take a clear position, promote and show your individuality instead of drowning in the crowd. 
    You know what makes you happy and can create the basis for it. 
    You know what you want to achieve, and you can dedicate yourself to the fulfillment of your dreams and goals.

10 tips for your self-discovery

1: You’re never done with self-discovery.  Say goodbye to the idea that at some point you would have found yourself and then finally arrived somewhere. That will not happen. Your personality is a complex system with many facets that are constantly changing. Self-discovery is an ongoing process. But even the individual steps on the way bring you clearly forward and make you happy.

2: This is just about you.  If you are dealing with yourself, you should first hide the scales from the outside as far as possible. After all, it’s about what YOU want and feel, not your parents, friends or partner. Make sure you score as little as possible. It’s okay how you feel and what’s important to you.

3: Leave your comfort zone.  In your comfort zone are those areas of everyday life where you feel safe and know how to behave. This is important and enjoyable, but also has a problem: Within the comfort zone, you can hardly learn anything. To explore your limits and possibilities, you have to try new things and leave the comfort zone for a while. Do not worry, you will always return to your safe haven. And, with a bit of practice, you’re expanding your comfort zone more and more, making it easy for you to find things that you find difficult today.

4: Spend time with yourself.  When you’re always with others, it’s hard for you to find out about yourself. Therefore, take regular time that you spend in the best company: your own.

5: Learn to meditate or do mindfulness exercises.  The prerequisite for your self-discovery process is the ability to calm the mind and just perceive things. Meditation and mindfulness exercises can teach you that.

6: Face your fears : Many people close their eyes, rather than looking more closely at what moves them. The reason is their fears. “Maybe I do not like myself anymore if I know myself better? Maybe then the others will not like me anymore? What do I have to change if I want to find myself? “These and similar fears keep you from knowing. To get ahead, you have to face them. You will see: most will prove unfounded.

7: Be open to different views.  Other views are important in order to expand your own world of thought. It also helps you to find yourself. Therefore, read books with new topics. Are you interested in the biography of other people. Talk to people from different backgrounds. Be curious!

8: Find a coach . If you have a long-term feeling of being on the spot, a coach or psychologist can be very helpful. Sometimes it takes the view from the outside to again clear the way to recognize. A few hours are usually enough for this.

9: Self-discovery does not mean self-optimization.  Countless homepages, books and magazines deal with how to “improve” yourself. And that means, in most cases, being leaner, toned, richer, more popular, and more successful. In self-optimization, we are very big, but this has nothing to do with self-discovery. When finding yourself, you first ask yourself: Do I really want to be richer or leaner myself? And if so, why? Only if these are also your own goals and not the demands of society, then it pays to look further in this direction.

10: Love yourself . Self-discovery is also about treating you well, being indulgent with yourself and giving yourself room to grow. Self-love is an important factor here. Treat yourself well and be patient with you. Be careful not to devalue yourself in your thoughts. Do not think about yourself worse than you would about a good friend, for example. Smile in the mirror and tell yourself how great you are regularly. Only those who are loved and appreciated can grow. This applies to children as well as to your self-discovery process.

5 exercises for your self-discovery

1: Use fill-in books. There are a variety of feel-good books to buy that regularly confront you with questions. In a creative way, you deal with topics that you might never have come up with yourself. You will learn a lot of interesting things about you. Take regular time to study your book.

2: Write morning pages. This exercise is about daily, intuitive writing. Every morning you sit down as soon as you get up and write three Din A4 pages by hand, with everything you can think of. Keep writing, keep saying the same word over and over in case of an emergency, until something new comes to your mind. If you do this exercise regularly, you can directly observe which topics occupy you and how your perspective changes over time.

3: Do a self-discovery walk. This exercise is not meant for in between, but can occasionally bring true episodes of knowledge. Choose one or two questions that you would like to deal with. Then choose a day when you have no other obligations. Put some water and some food in your backpack in the morning and then set off. Just walk away from your front door and think about your questions on the way. Do not give up too soon: stay calm for hours and find new facets and details about your self-discovery questions.

4: What did the others want?This exercise is about external influences that we often do not notice so clearly. Take an hour and make yourself comfortable with writing materials. Then you first ask yourself what your parents expected of you in the past. Should you adapt and be “good”? Take on a specific job? To be a “real girl” or a “real boy”? Get married and have children? Which values ​​were given to you? When you’re done with it (for now), you go through the other people who have influenced you in life. What did your school friends want? Your teachers? Your grandparents? Your first love? We are all confronted with countless demands from which we (especially in childhood and youth) take over many without reflection. Good to know,

5: “By no means” : Sometimes you get closer to the actual question, if you first look at the opposite. You just do not know what you want? Then try this exercise: Take your time and write a long list of things that you definitely do not want. What does not irritate you at all? Get creative while doing it: Would you like to be a circus artist? Tango teacher? Marine biologist? News reporter? But even more everyday things may play a role: you do not want to work shift? A large office is out of the question for you? Or you do not want to be outside in wind and weather? With the exclusion process you get closer to your real goals and dreams